Balancing the Bar

Happiness and the Practice of Law


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Do our clients reflect our personality traits?

In the last fifteen years, I have built a practice in the consumer and commercial collection area.  I have had many clients many of whom I would consider friends and some that I have the privilege of still representing.  I enjoy meeting new clients and developing relationships.  Helping them solve their accounts receivable issues is not always easy and at times, I feel like a dart board and the darts just keep coming.  All in all most days it is a pretty decent way to make a living.  My favorite days are the days where a I get talk to clients, spend time with them in court or meet with them in my office.  I have noticed that the client’s I have the best relationships are the ones with whom share similar personality traits (females, demanding and agressive at times).

It also appears that I am not alone in this way of building a practice and in developing client relationships.  As I look around my office, I have noticed others tend to attract clients that reflect their personality traits.  This is not true in all types of law, but those attorneys have long term client relationships tend to settle on a type of client that in some way reflects their personality.  Conservative attorneys  have conservative clients. Agressive attorneys tend to attract clients who are agressive and demanding.   Just take a look around you and see if you notice a trend.

 It is said that relationships are like mirrors.  Perhaps we are able to help our clients because we know what they would want on a conscious and or subconcious level.  Thus, knowing ourselves better will help us serve our clients better.  Then again perhaps the clients that move on don’t stick around because they dislike their reflection in the mirror.


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I have been an attorney for 15 years it seems to me that the number of lawyers who are unhappy far exceeds those that are happy.  The law is a stress filled practice and so many attorneys accept this as a part of  the job.  But, is stress a necessary biproduct of the profession? Or, do attorneys have some predisposition to stress and its related mental and physical health consequences? 

Balancing The Bar is here  to provide information for lawyers and anyone else who must cope with the intensity and stress which results from solving the problems of others.    I am no expert by any means.  However, through my own experience and observing those around me I made the decision to be a happy person first and a lawyer second.  I am still learning and it can be a daily struggle to keep the proper perspective. 

My hope is that others can find a way to enjoy their life and practice law too.  The profession looses a lot a good people because of the mental and physical demands of the practice.   Some the topics I hope to  cover  include mental health issues, the physcial effects of stress, life balance, exercise, meditation, stress management, book reviews and etc. 

I welcome your comments, blog ideas and guest bloggers to a submit entries for publication.  Together we lawyers can learn from each other and your participation is essential.  You can reach me at balancingthebar@ymail.com or leave a comment on one of the entries.  I look forward to hearing what people have to say.

Thanks for visiting.

Tabitha M. Hochscheid

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